It is better to try to answer than to respond with silence or evade the question. Practice different responses with colleagues, just as you practice other things that you want to learn. Figure out what you feel comfortable saying. Responses will vary by age and developmental stage of the student. Your comfort in answering these questions will set a welcoming tone in your class and school community.

Do you ever see a girl and can't figure out if you wanna be her or kiss her? Hello, this is my daily dilemma, and I'm here to talk it out with you! Let me clue you in to a top secret memo from Planet Queer: We all start off with absolutely no idea how to deal with our feelings, but this improves with a lot of mistakes and some intense pop music-scored angst sessions for the record, Haim is really good for this — and, you know, conversations with friends. Consider me your queer big sister! I've even brought a few of my pals along for the ride, so let's get through this together.

The dilemma I have known I was gay since I was a boy, but recently I have started having sexual feelings for women that I've spent a lot of time with at university. I went to a single-sex school and have never really had any female friends. I wonder if this might have contributed to my belief that I was gay.

Ally : Any person who works in solidarity both with other heterosexual people and with the queer community to aid in the struggle against hate, discrimination, and the heterosexist and patriarchal norms present in our culture. Being an ally means: sharing the power, taking a risk, taking responsibility, opening yourself up to the unknown, realizing that you are part of the solution, leveling the playing field, accepting differences, making allowances, and leading by action. Androgyny : Displaying characteristics of both or neither of the two culturally defined genders. Asexual : An identity where people do not feel sexual attraction, or feel very little sexual attraction Grey-asexual.